Bring on the trip…

"As the demands of each relationship and each season bring new roles and responsibilities, you must concentrate on the method by which you fulfill them rather than trying to measure your success by the world's approval. You must extricate yourself from the trappings of success heaped upon women in our culture today– the right house in the right neighborhood, the charming husband and the well-behaved kids, the successful career and the right image. Quit comparing yourself to everyone around you and forcing yourself to do what they're doing, wear what their wearing, be who their being. You must be a success in your own eyes– regardless of where you are in life right now– rather than compare yourself to those women with more clothes, more men, or more ministry success. It doesn't matter if you're working the register at Target or working as a registered nurse, you must mind your method if you are to carry yourself with dignity befitting a leading lady."

-T.D. Jakes

once again my favorite singer india arie helps me to have another revelation about life. The first one was in about 8th grade when i heard the video song… "i'm not the average girl on the video, and i ain't built like a supermodel but i learned to love myself unconditionally, because i am a queen." from then on i had  been able to always be confident in who i was or just pretend i was confident.

 Now she comes out with this new song "i am not my hair", and it is amazing. You HAVE to see the video. As i was watching the video i realized that i have put way to much time in worrying what people were gonna think of my hair and making sure it was always with the norm of society.

Good hair means curls and waves
Bad hair means you look like a slave
At the turn of the century
Its time for us to redefine who we be
You can shave it off
Like a South African beauty
Or get in on lock
Like Bob Marley
You can rock it straight
Like Oprah Winfrey
If its not what's on your head
Its what's underneath and say HEY….

man you have to hear the whole song, its just all so ironic because i was just currently obsessing what i was gonna do with my hair.

(Whoa, whoa, whoa)
Does the way I wear my hair make me a better person?
(Whoa, whoa, whoa)
Does the way I wear my hair make me a better friend? Oooh
(Whoa, whoa, whoa)
Does the way I wear my hair determine my integrity?
(Whoa, whoa, whoa)
I am expressing my creativity..
(Whoa, whoa, whoa)

however i decide to wear my hair it doesnt matter, now im not advocating walking out on the street without having given some care to your head. im just saying my hair doesnt define who i am. man why didnt you guys tell me i was being so superficial. thanks india.

 OR 

o.k so i got my hair braided today and it hurt so much, i mean it usually hurts but im just sick of all the pain i have to put up with for my hair. and getting it permed (straightened) hurts even worse because you have to sit with this burning chemical in your hair for like ten minutes. so ive decided im going to either get dreads like india arie, or go bald like nnenna from top model or get a fro (there were no good pics of this) right now im leaning towards fro, but im not sure.

if i got it done it wouldnt be till next year, but there is just so much to consider. because good hair can get you far in life, whether or not its fair, its true. Looks are everything in our society, im not willing to go through so much pain for it anymore though.

 -coco

(ISN'T HE BEAUTIFUL!)

I have made it my mission to make the music of

Tyrone Wells loved but all of my friends. So heres one of

the many beautiful songs written by Tyrone. 

I'M BETTER OFF WITHOUT YOU 

Almost don't remember
The way it used to be
Where you used to whisper
You belonged to me
You belonged to me

Chorus:
I'm better off without you
Except for when I sleep
I'm better off without you
Besides the time I breath
I keep telling myself
Maybe one day I'll believe
That Im better off without you
And I'd never think about you
I'm better off without you

I saw you on the sidewalk
And I'd thought I caught your eye
And I wondered if you loved him
As I watched you both walk by
As I watched you just walk by

(Chorus)

Looking at a photograph of you, youre laughing
I'm standing by your side
I remember you were wearing my favorite perfume
How could you forget about the time you told me I was your only joy
Now when you want to smile,
What do you do, what do you do

(Chorus)

O.K.so i've never had a blog before but i figure this is a good way to just kind of think out loud and get my thoughts out there. Cuz i think when you think to yourself too much without expressing your thoughts to others than that's when you can get yourself into troubling situations. Well that's true for me at least.

Well, right now I'm reading this book by T.D. Jakes called God's Leading Lady, it's a very well written book. It compares life to a stage and then he tries to help the reader to get out of the wings and become ready to go on stage and be God's leading lady. I just got done reading the chapter called The Director's Call and in the end T.D. asks you to just stop and think of what magnificent role God is calling you to.

And I don't want to sound cocky but no matter how i say this its gonna sound cocky. God has given me so many talents in different aspects of my life that i have no clue which magnificent role wants me to take up, i mean (i know it sounds bad) i could be good at a lot of things. It kind of makes me wish that i only had one gift, then it would be easier to know what magnificent role God wants to use me for. Any thoughts feel free to comment.